Is Kindness the Missing Piece?

Think about your family; parents, siblings, children, aunts, uncles, etc. Do you wish the connections were stronger and closer? That you could interact better? Maybe you are finally ready to take some time to better understand why you are estranged from certain loved ones?  Could kindness be the missing piece?

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4 thoughts on “Is Kindness the Missing Piece?

  1. I feel that many times we take our loved ones for granted and show more kindness to people outside our family. If we would show as much kindness to our own family members as we do to others, I believe our connections would be much stronger.

    • Hi Marie. Thanks so much for dropping by. It’s good to hear from you. I couldn’t agree more. Taking family for granted is all to easy to do and yet being kind is just as easy but takes attention and practice. It’s even harder when our children or our parents behave in ways we hardly feel like meeting with kindness. Then again, those are the times kindness is needed most! It’s hard. It’s easy to say what we want to do, should do or will do. But actually changing our behavior is a different story. Please come back and share your stories, thoughts and if the moof strikes – pictures and videos of kindness. I would love to post them on the blog!

  2. As much as we’d all love to profess that “our family is very close; we get along so well….” many times that is not the 100% truth. Camoflauge isn’t only for the military. Many times, families, out of necessity or pride, cover actual personal feelings. Missing pieces are many time secrets held to either protect each other or to save face, and it seems it’s very difficult to take the leaps of faith necessary to get beyond pieces of history or hurt feelings. I often employ writing my pleas, worries, wishes, messages of love when vocalizing them would be awkward or might incite an argument. Try writing a note to get things back on track.

    • Hi Evelyn! I always love hearing from you. Writing has been the key that has opened many a family door for me too. I am often too emotionally charged to communicate clearly and productively in person when an issue is fresh and raw or old and deeply seeded. With email and text, its easier than ever to send a quick note to someone offering a little open-handed message of kindness. For those of us who have had challenged family dynamics, this can seem pointless or can be underestimated. But I have found that a little can go a long way. The hardest thing is when the truth gets covered for so long, either no one can find it, or no one wants to do the hard work of unearthing it.

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